Sunday, July 29, 2012

30 Days = Habit

Good Morning!

Because of all the hilariously off the wall themes that happen in my everyday dating life, I decided to take the advice of a friend and go on a 30 day "man fast."  So far it's only been about 5 days and I'm amazed at the things I have learned not only about myself but the type of men I seem to gravitate to.

A man I had been talking to for awhile was not only interested in getting to know me but also wanted to meet because of our shared passion and business sense of music.  It felt more like a meet and greet rather than a date.  When I got there, a family member had informed me he needed to run to the store and he would be back soon. 

Once inside the studio, it seemed that everyone else was more interested in speaking with me and getting to know me and my talent than the dude who invited me.  When he did talk to me he was all over me and not really making coherent conversation.  This was such an odd event, I'm still not entirely sure what to make of it.

I spent most of the night talking with his cousin and his younger brother kept making comments along the lines of why didn't he meet me first?  The man who invited me was too drunk apparently to care that I was even there and so I made two new acquaintances from his family.  Not a total bust. I of course let Mr. Rude know about his lack of manners and he of course had nothing to say and just ignored the situation.

I digress. I seem to attract men that are lacking one of the three basics:

                1. Consistent Paying Job.
                2. A Driver's License and A Car.
                3. A place to live.

There are many other qualities that I want and feel I deserve to have in whomever I decide to spend my time with, but these are the bare minimum requirements.

Lately, I'm attracting men who either don't have a job, don't have a car or had a felony at one point in time .  They usually have about 10K kids with 50 "Baby Mommas."  Now if they actively take care of and participate in their kids' lives (all 10k of them) then I don't have an issue, but you have to wonder about their commitment capabilities.

Maybe I'm stuck in the bad boy loop or maybe because of my credentials, they think they have a chance with me...who knows?  Still figuring out these ever present Dating Dilemmas...

The SingleGirl

Friday, July 20, 2012

Scooby Snacks.....?

So like any average 20-something I have continued my always interesting venture of dating...

I've met a variety of people both on and and off the Internet and it ALWAYS turns into a learning experience; whether good or bad, wisdom is to be had.

Despite all the rhyming, I'd like to pose a question.  Is there a disconnect between what the brain thinks and the mouth speaks when it comes to interacting with the opposite sex?  I'm one of those females that would be completely content with, "Hi.  My name is John.  What's your name?"  Before you know it an actual conversation is to be had.

Maybe this is old-fashioned thinking but I truly appreciate simplicity when it comes to getting to know me or being approached.

Earlier today, I signed on to my online profile and discovered I had new comments on my pictures.  Most of the picture comments were "I like this photo."  However, one picture had a comment that stood out to me, "Nice Snack." 


This could be taken a number of ways however most of them made me feel like I should take a long shower.  So when you need input, where do you go?  Facebook of course!!

See the thread here:!/Tiffany.Ariel85/posts/10100762945787530?notif_t=feed_comment

Some reactions were laughter, some hostility, and some involved a fairly cool comeback that I may have to induct into my vocabulary repertoire (Thanks Mom)!

What happened to people just talking to each other, without having to add a corny line or potentially offensive comment just to get some one's attention?  I would think it would be easier to say "Hi" then to try to come up with something creative.  Creativity provides you with a 50/50 chance that you will either get knocked up side the head or a phone number.

If you have an 85% success rate or better with your creativity, then you have found your niche and more power to you.  However, if statements like "Nice Snack," is the best you can come up with, then changing it up to "Hi" may increase your number-obtaining statistics.

Like Mr. Gump said "Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gonna get." 

Fellas a word of advice, this applies to women too!

The SingleGirl

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

That Age Old Adage...

Do you remember the saying "Sick and tired of being sick and tired...?"

I used to think only people that were too melodramatic would utilize this phrase...and now, here I am seeing exactly what they meant.

I've loved and lost.  Been loved and didn't want it.  The pursuer and the pursu-ee and everything else in between.

Frankly, I'm tired.

Life after 25 is a new experience.  Your eyes start seeing what your gut was telling you from the beginning.  You start taking your every day experiences seriously and you don't always feel like you are invincible and on top of the world  (Remember 18 :)).

I feel like I keep asking my self questions like "When is my life going to start?"  "Is this all there is for me?"  Eventually you have to wonder if maybe you should be doing something to change your life, your perspective.  And then there's the "What the hell am I supposed to be doing?"

My job is a job that pays bills.
Dating is a migraine.
Finances cause a Crohn's outbreak.

I'm not doing what I want/need/crave/purposed to be doing...

SingleGirl Dilemmas